My trip to Delhi was at its tail end. The other day, I overheard Dadiji (my grandmother – Mrs. Sukanya Badhwar) speak with Dr.Uncle (Dr.Harsaran Singh) over the phone to fix a meeting. The thought of seeing him lit up my heart and I barged into the room, “Please, let us all meet together, Dadiji. Let me know what time and day you have finalized.”
In the celebration of spring, I wore my favourite scarlet red shirt and as we met in the garden of our home, Uncle and I laughed about how we were colour coordinated. We sat along with Dadiji over coffee accompanied by delicious dark chocolates that Dr.Uncle got for us. I excitedly updated him on what has been happening in my life and he gladly shared his recent stories of meetings with friends etc. It was almost as if I was catching up with a school friend.
We noticed the red whiskered bulbul swoop over our heads now and then to reach the old palm tree, where she had babies to feed. “Look at their eyes, how innocent and loving these birds and animals look,” commented Dadiji. The beautiful spring danced all around us as Dr.Uncle recalled his gardening days in his old house. “I would like you to add one thing to the write up,” he shared. With much interest, I leaned forward to hear him out. He elaborated on how he has had three surgeries – of the gall-bladder in 1977, hernia of both the sides in 2003 and also varicose veins of both the legs in 2005. “I never took any pain killer, even right after the surgery.” I was so shocked to hear this. “Wasn’t it painful once the effect of the anesthesia wore off?”, I enquired. “I had full confidence in myself and trust in the processes of the body.” Awestruck, I shared with him how so many meditative practices aim at this equanimity towards pleasure and pain – and it is such a blessing it comes naturally to him. Talking with Dadiji and Dr.Uncle I learned how confidence and faith are such important ingredients of living a spirited life.
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In my recent meetings with Pande Uncle and Dr. Harsaran Uncle I realized how Golden Moments is not an activity – it is a process. A process of opening hearts and connecting. How the age of a person is not at all a barrier to forming a deep friendship. Even Dadiji and I have unknowingly recreated our bond in a way, to a more expansive one through these little exercizes and sharings together. I had no clue I was entering such an amazing space with Golden Moments. It is like a whole new world unfolding.
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